Part Two lol
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Originally Posted by Kiya
... in my messed up family, on the surface the parents were supportive, said go for your dreams, teach the child to do things and be independent. But they didn't back that up with practice, building on basic skills, and totally undermined everything with their behaviors and actions, abuse in all forms...
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I won't go into detail at the moment, but... sounds familiar! Well, maybe a
teeny bit of detail: my parents were afraid that if I had access to money, whether from an allowance or from working, I might learn to spend it foolishly. The summer between high school and college, when I started working, my father offered to pay me a comparable amount
not to work -- so that (I suspect) he could tell me what I could and couldn't buy with my "allowance" and, if he ever wanted to exercise even more control, threaten to cancel it altogether.
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I had to fight off mom with a fork - not that it worked. She still got several bites out of it, even though I said no i don't know how many times. Then when I went to eat mine she ate more - i heard her and pinned her with it - she finally admitted by going *gulp* and changing the subject, then complained about her own dinner the rest of the way. *brushes it off*. I have retreated for the night to ponder all this.
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She never met a boundary (yours, anyway) she liked? Sometimes it sounds like you're the parent and she's the bratty little kid getting back at you for being a bad mommy to her.
You mentioned adrenal exhaustion. Until I was about your age I believed what I'd been told: that the normal American diet provided all the vitamins we needed so there was no need to worry about supplements and stuff. A normal American diet did mean a cola and a pastry for lunch, didn't it? After a nasty case of flu that put me in bed for two weeks I decided (just out of idle curiosity, you understand) to check out what I really
was consuming by way of vitamins during an average day. Of course it turned out that I was way under on a couple and kind of marginal on the rest. Searching around in a bookstore for ways to go about correcting that, I came across
Adelle Davis's books. I've been following her recommendations pretty closely ever since. Maybe I've just been lucky, but they seem to have worked pretty well for me. With the restricted diet that you're on, I'd think you'd be at considerable risk for deficiencies unless you took a lot of care to anticipate and avoid them. Or are you already doing that?
Take care, Kiya!
