How was your relationship with your in-laws before your divorce? How would you have characterized them before the divorce? Were they kind to you? Were tehy caring?

I have found that when some people are hurt or betrayed the worst in them comes out. They are great if everything is going well, but scorn them and they can retaliate like a cornered tiger.

I wouldn't beat myself up over it. Sounds like you are being pretty hard on yourself. Your in-laws are seeing the "glass as half empty instead of half full." It takes a big person to be able to forgive and be understanding under dire circumstnaces. Not too many people have that ability, or so I am learning.

Don't be hard on yourself. You did the right thing. Follow your heart. Hopefully time will heal. I wish you well.