hi. i find this topic so interesting, because i met my bf online. we met on another forum, not psychcentral, and not a dating site. it was just a friendly situation, but both of us ended up falling in love, and keeping it secret from the other - and he eventually confessed and i confessed back! the kicker is, we never exchanged pictures or descriptions, until AFTER we had fallen in love.

in each other's eyes, we are both beautiful and amazing - because we see each other through eyes of love.

i have never dated anyone based on looks. i have seen cute guys, hot guys, etc. and had my fantasies - but my relationships are always based on my attraction and love for the inner person. physical attraction is important in a romantic relationship. but physical attraction and chemistry does not follow the rules of our media and today's society - and their view that only the young and physically perfect, can be desirable.

i don't know you babysteps, but i can see from reading your posts on this forum, that you have a lovely sense of humor and are a very caring person. i am sure you could make a woman feel like she is the only woman in the world and in turn she would adore you for the deep soul that you have. you deserve someone the best - and that is someone who sees into your heart and soul and loves you for YOU. and does not care about externals.

don't give up