hi i am new at pc but not new at life lol

i have some major trust issues.

but i was honest about it with my bf and he tries to help

we try to be very transparent in our relationship.

when i get freaked or paranoid, or jealous of who comments on his facebook, LOL, there is one thing i say to myself. """can i change him or control him and should i change him or control him""" (((answer NO))) ok....do i love him (((YES)))

i have to take the risk . all love has risk assigned to it. it is part of the package. when we give our heart and soul to someone, well, we may get hurt.

trust issues are very difficult to get past. and the paranoia and fear can damage healthy and positive relationships

be honest and open with your true love. share your trust issues.
be vulnerable (you already are.......) but own that vulnerability.
if you are loved for your deep and truest SELF, your lover will help you feel safe in your relationship
it will be the beginning of your healing
and a building of trust in your relationship
(note . there are already signs that this will happen re the way your lover acts)
wishing you the best