hey hun

this is not an easy thing to go through
poor you

i am sooooooo not a relationship expert. omg. unless you count experience lol

i am 46. and i have been around the block. am in a relationship currently, and i will say for sure, that if he is confiding in someone other than me, if he is fantasizing about someone other than me, if he is physically touching/kissing/having sex with someone other than me , , , he is cheating

i am cool with having separate email accounts. i have private feelings that i discuss with good friends of both sexes. but i AM faithful to my lover. i have to step out on a limb and trust him - or else - we have NOTHING.

once you own a history of distrust, as you have, it is much harder to start over and build trust

at the end of the day, you have to go with your heart. IS an emotional affair , cheating , to you? and . . . . if you happen to be like me and it IS cheating . . . do you give one more chance? note. if you offer a second chance you can and possibly should, ask for conditions. you are 'allowed' to ask for a shared email account and not him having 12 acc's and you aren't on them
also, you can say "delete blank blank from your facebook""
if he doesn't,
or does not want to
you have a huge answer there
i wish you the absolute best
you seem like a wonderful person
you deserve to be cherished, and to feel safe.
((major hugs))
thanx for letting me chime in