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D: Of course you're paranoid, according to him, because he's the one doing the shady behavior.
Being in a committed relationship, especially one where he claims that he wants to marry you, does not include any of those things. I once had a friend (who I am no longer friends with for various reason) who claims one night stands aren't cheating, as well as sexual encounters with the same gender isn't either. The biggest question is, 'do you want to marry someone who is a cheater?'. Whether it be verbal, voyeurism, whatever have you. If you can answer that, than that's you're answer to whether or not being in this relationship is worth it.
It's hard to take, but a leopard rarely ever changes his spots. There are a very, very few instances where the cheating will be an isolated instance. It's not that he's done it only once, I guarantee you that it's been more than that. Not only that, he's not even bothering to cover his tracks. He obviously doesn't seem to take care enough to take your feelings into consideration. He may not be constantly physically cheating (however it still seems, from the adultfrirendfinder site, that he still might be looking to), but he's mentally and emotionally cheating, which to many is considered a lot worse (depending on their view and opinion of what cheating actually is).
Don't ever believe that you're that special person who can make him change his ways It just doesn't happen (I've been through the heartache of that). It's just too set in him, and the only one that can change that behavior is himself. It looks like he doesn't want to. It's pointless to talk to him, because he's going to keep making excuses (and seemingly pretty bad ones too) and laying the blame on you, rather than himself for his own behavior (whether it be blaming you for being snoopy or paranoid or whatever excuse he sees fit for that day).
In my honest opinion, he's really not worth your time. Imagine after you get married, and he actively has affairs, and he doesn't bother hiding anything and he proof against him is obvious. What then? Think about it before you decide to get married. If he's lying like he is now, imagine what money things will he hide.
I really wish you the best of luck, and you're definitely not paranoid. He's given you more than enough reasons to be suspicious.
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