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Some families are extremely close and it’s normal to talk on the phone or see each other every day. Just because another families traditions are different than your own does not mean that they’re necessarily wrong or unhealthy.
Being a woman I would be extremely annoyed that my significant other has placed his mother before me. Being a mother I understand that at some point in their lives my children will put their husbands/wives as their number one priority. This is the circle of life, but on the other hand I would be very suspicious if this new person thought that speaking to me on the phone or coming to see me was a big deal.
This man seems very weak. If he truly did quit his job because his mother asked him to that sounds off. It sounds like there’s more to the story here. It sounds unnatural for a grown man to quit a job or move back home because his mother requested him to. It also sounds unnatural for her to make such a request unless she felt that the stress of the job was just too much for him. Maybe he’s using mom as the scape goat.
What reason does he give for moving back in with his mother? Seven months is not a long time, he might be scared. Having a baby is a big step, especially after only a few months of dating.
I’d stop blaming mom and start holding him accountable for his actions. If he doesn’t want to live with you he should own up to it.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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