That was sort of my reaction the first time I found out that a friend of mine was SI-ing. I wished I could rescue her but at the same time realized I didn't understand what was going on for her (my issues, both). I was also afraid that anything I said might somehow make her worse.

(((((((((Fool Zero)))))))))

That might not be the exact issue (or the only issue) that ST is stuck on about you, but I was thinking that if seeing you reminded her of unfinished business, triggered her, or put her off balance, she might have wanted those ten minutes to regain her composure or adjust her unperturbed face.

Oh I'd have adjusted her face for her LOL

Another possibility is that she had more of an emotional attachment to you than she was comfortable with (or considered appropriate), perhaps felt abandoned or betrayed when you left (in spite of "knowing better", of course) and when she saw you again had thoughts such as, "Oh, no, Jacq's here to torment me again!"

Well she definitely emotionally invested in this relationship as well... the only problem was SHE was the adult, and she shouldn't have made all these promises she didn't intend on keeping. It was part of her job and responsibility not to breach boundaries with people, and if that happened (which in our case it did) then she should have realised it, instead of turning it around on my so I wind up feeling as though everything is my fault.

I sent her an email... frick like 3 years ago now.... if you're interesting in seeing what I said and how she responded, PM me your email address and I'll forward it to you. It pretty much explains everything there... lol