You know she might be a whole entirely different person. Yeah she could be saying those things, but she might be different if she knew you. What I would do is tell bf what you really think, and I would go down there and meet her. I have had to do this before. I would think that she would want to know the mother of her grand child. Tell him that you need his support right now. Next time you talk to him tell him it's time for him to come home, and if he tells you that he can't, then tell him he's a grown man, and that he can. If you don't want to go there then tell him to bring her to your home. Sometimes we need to be forward on what we want and need. You can't always worry about upsetting someone. You have your baby and you to think about, so if that means pissing off the bf's mother than so be it. This is really his issue about him standing up to his mom. I don't know why she would want to control him like that. keep posying so we know how you are.