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Aug 11, 2009, 12:00 AM
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Member Since: Apr 2009
Location: In The Moon Shine
Posts: 1,306
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Originally Posted by blackdragon
email from him. his mom treats him like a child and basically doesnt beleive he can hold a job just because he is bipolar.
jmo, blackdragon, but he is allowing his mother to dictate what he can and cannot do..at his age, he needs to be able to stand up for himself...for you and for your baby.
Please be direct with him the next time you email him. It may open his eyes and make him take responsibility for himself.
she rather see him on ssi than to have a job. for ssi he has been denied 4 times and he wants to work but once his mom talks to him then he just gives in.
It can be very difficult for someone, male or female, not to crumple whenever a parent belittles them.
It's also possible that he doesn't actually want to be independent, blackdragon. If this should be the case, you need to know so you can make plans for you and your child.
Before he left he was hopefull and happy excieted about work and getting a new apartment and the baby but all it took to dash his dreams was a 20 minnute fone call from mom and he just gave up.
I'm so sorry...
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Again, this is just my opinion, but perhaps it's a necessity now to have some kind of communication with him...and his mother.
Most likely, she will not respond but you will know that you tried to give him every chance to behave like a man.
It's understandable that you are very hurt, probably afraid, and trying to handle your disappointment in him...and your anger that he has basically abandoned you and his baby.
Perhaps getting counseling will benefit you in many ways.
Along with working through your feelings, you will be able to find agencies that can help you.
Please check into what resources are available to you.
Taking action can be of help in regaining a sense of control...
Catherine
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The Most Dangerous Enemy Is The One In Your Head Telling You What You Do and Don't Deserve...
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