kd,
Been having a bad time recently but had to come out to say " I'm so happy for you ", holding on to your power is very important. I understand what a major accomplishment that is!!! My heart goes out to you and my support.
You may have days like me, where there's a slip and some power is lost..... that's when you must take special care of yourself and lean on others, like your wonderful husband and daughter, and us here. I'm always just a PM away when, and if that should happen.
My father has been gone for 11 years and I'm just now distancing my mother's malicious, destructive power. I think it's good for you to be doing this so soon after the loss of your father. I wish you much inner strength and love for yourself.
You didn't repeat the cycle to the next generation, it's apparant by how your daughter is so loving towards you-- I truly commend you for that. You're a wonderful, loving woman--- don't let anyone put doubt in your mind!!

-----No, No !!!!
Take care, wishing you peace,
Mandy