It all boils down to trust. Simple as that. Nothing more to it.

I sometimes have the tendancy to be playfully flirty, (toward both sexes, depending on the person). My love, Kristian, understands that and because of our mutual trust, he has absolutely NO problem with it....after all, it's only playfulness and he understands that I'm the social type.

I do not abuse it though, and if I should notice that it seems to go into a direction of more than playfulness, then I make it a point to immediately correct it....as I have no outside interests. And if, by chance, Kristian should feel uncomfy about any of my playfulness, he lets me know, and I attend to it by correcting it (eliminating it), which I have no problem with.
(I place myself into his position, ask myself how I'd feel if I were him, and go from there).
It's all good!!

Agreed, though.....
There should be absolutely NO room for hiding...ANYTHING!
IF there is trust, then there is acceptance. Acceptance provides freedom. Freedom delivers openness. Openness offers no need to hide....anything.

Hiding usually means secrets. Secrets usually means guilt. Guilt tends to mean AWARENESS of unaccepted behavior, which means that person is behaving in a way which he/she is perfectly conscious that they are doing something which would hurt their partner.
Not good!!

Shangrala