Hi all,

Let me start with saying one thing. I think it is an amazing thing that this site has been developed and wonderful people such as yourselves are there to offer your help and support to a complete stranger. The idea of it is truly amazing.

I am extremely thankful for all your advice. As far as leaving things out, I have to admit I have started a few arguments here and there, but none in the magnitude that he has, and even then, when I have started arguments, they always ended with him being nasty. Almost this attitude of no matter what I do or you do, its your fault and you're going to get the harsh end of it. So, in the end, its almost like I know what I need to do. I feel like if I stay in it, I am gambling with my life a lot more than I would be if I got out now. AFterall, if he disrespects me this much before marraige, then how is it going to be after? (We were planning on getting married sometime next year)...

Its finding the strength to say that its over and move on. I have been with him for a year and a half....and no matter how mean he was, I Did fall in love with him at one time. So, it is difficult to just stop answering his phone calls and emails. I have talked to all my close friends aobut this...they all seem to think exactly like you all do, get out now while I stil lhave time.

I guess I am trying to find one person to tell me that the decision I am is taking is wrong. And, I dont seem to be finding that person so I guess I am making the right decision. My parents were aginst this relationshiop from the beginning and jsut recently started to accept it since they thought they had no other choice. I feel strange saying it but I guess parents are always right. And like one of my friends said, "you are only 22. Dont put yourself in this kind of a situation now!" I guess I am too young to be dealing with all this now...

I might take you up on the idea of finding some professional help to deal with all this. I just hope that he is ok because I know he is going to be heartbroken once I tell him...I will keep you all posted on what is happening! Again, thank you so much for the help and advice.