(((((candy15))))) I myself have had counselors become my friends. In my case there was nothing wrong with it and my counselor did ask her advisers if it was OK before doing extra things for me. She had other projects with other clients and she would invite me along to get me out of the house. I am glad that I had a counselor who genuinely cared about my well-being.
Now you stated that your counselor has a history of depression. Maybe she is having a hard time herself at the moment and does not know how to help you. I know with my depression I can hide for days without any communication with the outside world. I hope this is not the case but it is a possibility. Hugs for your day.