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Aug 12, 2009, 09:35 AM
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Member Since: Feb 2007
Location: Florida
Posts: 1,611
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I am sorry you are feeling sooooo bad.  You are too young to be making a decision about ending your life. It may seem right now that you will always feel the way you do and that nothing good can ever happen to you. That's the depression talking, that's the hurt from losing your girlfriend talking. But it's not true.
Feeling the hurt after losing someone you love is good and natural. We have to grieve to get over them. Let yourself cry and feel bad, this will help you to get to feeling better again sooner. Trying to stop the pain or blaming yourself that this girl changed her mind about your relationship will just make the pain last longer. It wasn't YOUR fault. She has her feelings and reasons and that's about HER, not about you not being "good enough" or something like that. You are okay just as you are. She is okay just as she is.
You need to grieve then find friends who like you just as you are, and remember - people change and friendships change. That's not anyone's fault, it's just the nature of human beings. Don't make any permanent decisions about a temporary situation. Time will heal your wound. Be gentle with yourself and take care of yourself.
I'm 55 years old. I had a couple relationships end that made me feel like I wanted to die, but I lived. And after some time - almost a year in one case - I found out I could be happy again even though that person was no longer a part of my life.
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