My boyfriend can't have sex fully. He gets excited, but then he gets up and goes to the bathroom and jerks off. He says he has a "bladder problem". But it is sooo obvious what is going on. This has been a constant problem all his life(age 50). He has been married several times, but says he is sexually inexperienced. If he has never been able to penetrate a woman, then I can see why he would say that. I am wondering if the self abuse has become habitual. His self esteem is the lowest I have ever seen. I wish I could help him, but some other problems in the relationship are making me consider ending the relationship. Should I discuss it with him before I do so he will know it wasn't that? Or just get out while I can out of a bad scene? He's a mess, but a sweet one.