Babysteps (aka Moonie Man),
Between you and Rohag, there are some really good questions. I have had and still do have some of them for myself. One of the things I say after many years of therapy is, I still have questions, only not as many as I used to have. I have more acceptance of the questions that I still have. But, there are those days...when nothing helps. Nothing.
There are 2 primary reasons I didn't die 16 years ago. One was I stopped drinking and the other was I got a therapist.
I don't know if any of that helps, but I hope you know I care.