Wow, it sounds to me like you have both depression and burn out. If you dislike your job so much, how will you deal with the depression? I mean, unless you get away from a job that you really dislike, can you feel better?
There are certainly more options than just Paxil, and unfortunately, many will cause you to feel 'sickly' until you get used to it. Perhaps another try at meds would be an idea. Why are you/your husband so against psychiatrists and psychologists? It appears that you need help from one or both.......would u not see a cardiologist if you were suffering with chest pains? TO me, having a mental illness(depression perhaps in your case) is not different than having diabetes - both need treatment and both can be controlled.
It certainly seems that you know how to determine how you are feeling ( ie journal), but knowing, and doing something to help you feel better are 2 different things. IMHO you should see a therapist of some kind - not to just complain too - but for coping skills, etc. and perhaps they would then determine if you need medication.
Good luck to you - and welcome to this site ! Lots of great folks here.