Well I have the perspective of being a married woman whose been seriously questioning if I'm gay and not just bi as I've thought I was for a long time. It's a confusing thing for everyone involved but yeah I feel more bi and mostly don't want to lose the relationship I have. I do have moments where I wonder though.

I can't say I have any really helpful advice except I particularly sympathize and I know that has to be just so hard for you, just understand that I think it takes a long time for some people to come to grips with their sexuality and I don't think it's the case that he had to be lying or hiding it from you like someone else said.

If you think it wouldn't be too painful are there any sort of pflag groups or such in your area you could visit with? A therapist might be able to direct you both to some glbt resources.