I will just add, Artist, that I too heard that the family had been told about me....how he had "met someone special." And it does give a feeling of security to know that, but it soon faded, making me feel I was at fault....not him. I hadn't even told MY family about him, and to this day, most don't know.
It sounds like this is a recent breakup for you....how long since you've actually seen her? Have the two of you communicated in any way which would allow you to give her assurance and comfort, telling her your true feelings and how special she is to you? I know all the advice books say NOT to contact the person, but if her issues are really just fear, I don't see the harm in letting her know your loving intentions toward her. I would like to know what others on the forum have to say about this. If, for instance, she has told you flat out that she doesn't want to hear from you or have any contact, then, pursuing her will only turn her off, I suppose, and make you appear like a stalker. It's a fine line, believe me....I KNOW!!!
Since it has been two months since my last visit with the fella I mentioned, and though I have emailed him two or three times, getting polite replies, the last time I emailed him, I actually got physically ill the next day, thinking about what I had done....AND....that email was just a friendly "hello," telling him about my grad school art classes and wishing him well in his new job as a college professor.
In my 8 years since divorce, my first dating experience resulted in the man becoming a stalker when I tried to end it, breaking into my house with a gun and trying to shoot me. (He went to prison.) So I am very aware, conscious, and cautious about my own actions, despite my feelings for this last man to whom I was so attracted. As I said...It is a very fine line of knowing what is appropriate re/communication.
So, to help you, it would be helpful to know what has transpired since the "breakup" regarding your contact with her.
Seeker