CA. As of my last post,7-30-09,my girlfriend was keeping at bay ,shutting me out of all contact and being "protected"from me by a friend. She had been changed dramatically (I believe) by an episode(event)some 5 weeks ago and found herself questioning the direction of her life and had to make some changes . I was suddenly part of the fallout as she pushed away to separate from what she saw as a bad influence(so I thought,she hadn't really said (until two nights ago) when for the first time in three weeks I saw her face two face at her home. She had called me for help with her car. When I arrived she became agitated at anything I said. I had too much to ask , but the important quest. was always..why? can you tell me now what have I done to deserve complete denial as a person . The answer "you know well enough, you think I'm crazy". "I've heard what you say about me". You just want to "fix" me because you think there is something wrong with me".
This whole time separated she had convinced herself that I had some kind of distorted intent with her like using a crazy person for just for the sex, and not really caring about her welfare as a person. Her friends helped put the negative spin on what I was trying to do. You know, like "You're no psychologist or doctor ,you're not God", etc. I never got to ask her what it was I was trying to do to harm her.
The whole time we're apart she has shut me out of contact and is building animosity which she seems eager to show at any time. Meanwhile I have been writing her letters and notes every day leaving them privately on face book and yahoo, as well as scouting for her hoping she is safe, but not finding.
This behavior of her's is really in question: She knows of the posted letters and what they represent, and like her "can't call me" policy, she does not read my mail and has not responded to one sentence which has been poured out to her in appeal..
I'm going to get my things next week(with PD standby).That may be all.
But I am dedicated to seeing that she take the next step and seek treatment. I am willing to go far to do it. I have informed her family of this intent as I have spoken to her sister that they must support the effort. Now is the time.
There is also this, which may be a tool to use...Assault. She has assaulted me 4 times
the last was three nights ago at her place. This the worst and witnessed. The question: is there any sense to charge her with the assault ? Is there any leverage here?
Thanks every one for your kindness and help to date . Any further comments?
This is a case of miss perception ,miss understanding and mistakes. I'd sure like to convince her to look again and to get that help!