I believe it exists, but I believe it can be confusing at times, at least going on my own experience. I mean I'm with a man and I love and feel very connected to him. Also I enjoy being with him when I'm with him...lol with "enjoy" including the meaning of a eupemism for orgasms. Which according to the random trashy women's magazine I read in waiting rooms is more than a lot of totally straight women have in their relationships.

But still, and despite the fact I used to always get upset at any idea men and women were psychologically different, I am confused by the depth of the relaxed sensual intensity I was able to have with my girlfriend. It's just so different being with a woman and it makes me wonder how much further I am on the gay end of the scale than I realized. But I also think sexuality is fluid and complicated...and yeah I disagree you have to be either. And either way I think people ought to just get to be with who they love.