How do you know when it's time to let go of a friend? And then, when you do decide it's time, how do you let go when you've become too attached? This is in reference to my post "Just wanting to talk" from a few weeks ago. I haven't talked to her in weeks.

She doesn't seem interested in being friends. In the past, when things were OK between us, she would go for a few weeks at a time without contacting me. The difference is then there was no tension or problem between us. Now, there is.

I have always thought the reason for her being so distant at times and not contacting me was her way of protecting herself. She's been in abusive relationships. It just occured to me that I have a right to protect myself and maybe the way to start doing that is to just let her go. It's just difficult to make that decision... I would like to have more closure.

In some ways, it seems like our friendship was on her terms. I mean I had to wait on her to contact me, then wait for a time that was good for her. It seems like sometimes I would rearrange my schedule to do things with her.

My therapist is encouraging me to let this friendship go. She said that if there was ever a time in the future when my friend might want to be friends again, then I should work on making the friendship more on my terms. Not just wait when the time was convenient to her.

If this makes any sense, I would appreciate some feedback. Today my obsessions have been running rampant.