I read all the posts you shared. I'm one of them that have been suspicious about my ex-boyfriend. We still keep in touch over videophone and AIM. But to me...I keep getting strange vibes about him lately and still hardly to have doubts about him.
I would like to let you read the AIM message that my ex-boyfriend's ex-girlfriend who threw at me in harsh messages about me:
BRIDGETSEXY04: u listen u ***** take tht stupid *** away message off la do not want ur sorry useful *** and wht more is tht la gave me ur sn to tell u tht ur not a worthy person la love me not u period so take tht away message off no one want to see ur stupid away message at all la also shld tell u tht himself why waste ur time for with him ur as stupid as u look la love me my ***** not ur cuz ur ***** is old mine is young get a grip of urself find urself a older man la told me tht u cheated on him before so again i dont have tyme for no druma with u and ur stupid away message will not help u solve ur plms so get loss u stupid ***** again la does not love u at all period just using u and u u should know better for wht giving la ur card tht so silly of u to do tht and knowing he buy me wht i need with tht card ur the dumbest woman ever la played u very well and ur just too soft for anything i bet u will **** any men just like lasaid to me ur a hoe tht wht u really r a dumb **** hoe u just keep on wastin ur time u need to get a grip take tht stupid away message off period

I was shocked and learned about his ex-girlfriend telling me about my ex-boyfriend. I susicipous that he gave her my AIM scn. What more...I copied/paste the message send to him what she said. He keep saying that she didn't talk to me and it was his other ex-girlfriend set it up. I was like...he's putting me into TRIANGLE between his two ex-girlfriends. I'm glad that I choose to go over my work and talked to the payroll department that I would like to have my paycheck to mail out to my home address instead of send direct deposit in my credit card that he has it. Because of what his ex-gf mention to me about my card that he will buy her anything what he want! Even though I still love him no matter what. I haven't bother him lately to mess up my friendship with him. However.....I realized that I have learned that my other friends tried to warn me to let him go, he's not worth it. He will continue to use money 'n sex with other girls include his ex-gf will go over his money if I give him. My question...Why can he tell me the truth himself that he's using me for money 'n sex!!!!??? I kept asking myself why????

I will continue to keep it down and let it flow because I have no way for me to keep in touch with him on AIM after I learned about the money issues. So good thing that I made my choice to protect my work paycheck will direct to my home address, so he can't access to use it. I know he will find a way to tell me.

Should I go for it to stay friends with him or let him go and I will move different direction to move on. I need to hear one of your lectures. Thanks!