You know I would stay away from this friend. I also think she could show some kind of respect to you. If she wants to keep her kids sheltered then it's not your problem if your son talks to her. Personally I would be offended by her smart remark to your son. To me that would be saying that you just let your son screw anyone. Sorry to put it like that. I have a daughter, and 2 boys. I think you need to voice your opinion to her. I would just tell her that we have our differences, and I don't like how you always want to bring up your issues with me. I really don't see how you can stand her. When it comes to your kids you need to draw the line with her. If she doesn't want your son around her daughter then she should tell you this, not your son. I probably would have opened up my big mouth, and said that you are one to set an example. And the next time she brings up a race issue, just plain out ask her why she's a raciest. You didn't do this, she did. Tell her that I see a person for who they are, not what your race does or another race does. I don't know I would just stay away from her. All she's doing is making you upset anyways.