The number one symptom of grief is yearning. And yearning is something which is felt when you love someone and then they are gone from your lives. I've always seen my therapist as a genuine and flawed human being and those little quirks are some of what I miss the most. That's what I ache for the most...the familiar things...the glint in the eye, a knowing expression...his things. Of course I miss the closeness and the feelings too, but I also miss him...the person.