Marjan- There's a lot of good guys out there; you just have to search real hard! No use in trying to get worked up over this idiot. I used to be in the same boat as you. I went out with a girl at work (only for like a month though) and she basically told me to take a hike and I just became obsessed with her. Not like stalkerish but I my mind became so focused on her I couldn't think about anything else. Here's what I learned: 1. The people that you like and it doesn't work out with them, they are human too. You probably think this guy is perfect and why would he want to leave you, but the thing is, he is human too. The people who seem perfect are often the ones with the most flaws and the most insecure. 2. Just move on. There's other fish in the sea. Make an effort, right now, somehow, to connect with someone. Be more open. Eventually it will lead to good things. Don't go into a shell. It's okay if you do, but try to open up. Smile, laugh, take everything with a grain of salt. 3. Love everyone, including this idiot that did this to you. Don't hate him because he will own you. All your energy will be wasted on him. Your thoughts will always turn to him. Instead, love him (and everyone else). He wants the same thing in life you do but he went about it in ALL the wrong ways. I find in my depressed times, I have to make a concerted effort to reach out to people and to love people. Sometimes it's hard to just snap out of it, so I find music works well and also prayer. If you're not religious that's fine, but there's a lot of beautiful prayers out there on the internet. I also found this blog, happinessinthisworld.com, it's very beautifully written and reading it definitely helps. Good luck Marjan! I feel your pain! But you know what? You'll be just fine!!!!!!! All is well. Life is supposed to be difficult. You have to weather the storms. God Bless you.