I have reread this thread a couple of times and there is one thing that i feel woman in gen need to think about. Badger, you said he used you sexually. Was the sex mutual? Did you willing go to bed with him? Did you enjoy the sex? I refuse to see woman in term of Ho or the good girl or Flossie. IMHO a so called loss woman is just someone who has a more active sex drive. Again it might just be me but i feel in this day and age woman need more then ever to take control of their own sexuality.
Lets face it guys want sex! 9 out of 10 guys want to have with a woman. we do all sorts of wierd things to get your attention . You hold the power. You don't need to be mis perfect or even close to perfect.
i better just stop typing now before i get myself in even more trouble.