This is a prime example of how important communication is with your kids.

Sounds to me that this woman may not have a very strong bond with daughters, and granted, although she may intend to protect her dots from exposure to boys, seems to me that it can also be her way of avoiding the effort of maintaining communications with dots.

We cannot always shelter our children from the evils out there. They NEED exposure to learn how to survive what awaits them.
The more they are told they cannot, the more they are challenged, and determined TO obtain what they are denied....even if to prove to themselves that they can, or just to spite the parent who refuses them the opportunity.
This doesn't mean that kids should be allowed to run wild without any guidance..on the contrary. However, I firmly believe that kids should be treated with the intellegence that they do have and the respect they so deserve.

So long as there is strong communications with your kids, mutual trust and respect, then any obstacle that they do encounter they will face with confidence knowing that you are available for them to discuss any issues/questions they may have, especially knowing that judgements will not be passed upon them for being at the curious age that they presently are.

Perhaps, it wouldn't have been a personal matter toward you IF she didn't present it the way she had. However, she did, and it was, in it's own right offensive to a point.

Her own actions are a contradiction to what her words are....seemingly, again, passing the buck of her responsibility by placing it onto others.
She subjects her dots to these various men having little to no regard to the fact that her dots are exposed to exactly what she is casting responsibility onto the boys. That certainly doesn't say much for her character. She seems to be sending the signal, "Do as I say, not as I do", but not just to her own dots, but to everyone else, as well.

Long term established friendship or not, I'd shy away from her drama.
That's all you'll need to discover at a later point..that she suddenly finds reason to directly blame your son for something that never occurred.
No thanks!

Shangrala