I'm so sorry you had to go through so much...

Just one thing I wanted to suggest... When people ask you about stuff you don't want to talk about, you don't have to tell them anything if it makes you uncomfortable or upsets you. When someone asks me about something that's too hurtful for me to tell, if it has no relevance and no therapeutic reason, I just say I can't/don't want to talk about it. You have no obligation to satisfy people's curiosity. It took me years to realize this and when I did it was extremely freeing. I'm sure you know this already, just wanted to provide a little support by sharing my personal experience

I wish you all the best