sparrowtail
i have gone the route of setting "rules", guidelines and taking control and it ends up blowing up in my face. my T keeps reminding me that it is communication, compassion, cooperation, and teamwork that will keep the system running smoothly. when something "breaks thru" it is usually because something needs to be addressed, worked on, processed or another insider is needing to talk.

in the end, it all falls back into working again. as Crew said, it is part of healing. part of the process---it does have it's ebbs and flows and believe it or not, those without DID go thru some of this too!!!