My boyfriend and I have been dating about 7 months now. He graduates with his Masters in December and I graduate with my B.S. in May. By the time he is done we will have been together for almost a year and we're kind of dancing around the idea of moving in together. Well his roommate flew off the handle over something stupid and now has basically been saying my boyfriend is forced to move out Jan 1 after he defends.

He is pretty fickle. Sometimes he will go on these tangents about how he wants to marry me, have babies....the whole sha-bang. Then the next day he will get kind of defensive about it and will out on the reverse a little bit.

I'm not an ultimatum type of girl and I don't like pressuring people. And at the same time I love having my freedom and living by myself. But, honestly, this is the first person I have ever been able to picture myself with and feel so comfortable with. I know that we are both in it for the long haul but I can't get him off the fence. I know he is scared because his last serious girlfriend f-ed him over in the worst way. (They were hundreds of miles away in Colorado. After over 5 years together, he came back from CO and she stayed there with another man. Then came back to town ON HIS BIRTHDAY to pick up all her stuff and married this other guy 3 months later).

I really can't imagine having a person do those things to me so I get why he goes back and forth but I don't know how to approach him and say "come on, just do it" and have him agree to move in in a couple months. I don't want to be pressuring or make it seem like I'm forcing him but at the same time, I'd like to know whether it's going to go the next step in a few months or not. How do I approach him about this?