Nowwheretorun and Muffy........

I admire your warmth and generous natures.......

I lack the ability to recognise communities......I wish i did.

All communities in real life and on here make me feel overwhelmed......people make me feel overwhelmed.......it is all too "loud" sometimes and I react in defense......

I am only good around people I know and trust implicitely(probably because I cannot tell when people are lying......I am a little naive!!).

I have tried both irl and on here to be proactive, to not see all life as a science experiment.......I am really good around scientists! I can argue with them and not walk away feeling like they have been hurt as we do not discuss feelings, only what is given or being explored.

I feel homesick when I see people connect, divulge and interact so easily. It is only on my bad days that I feel needy for validation.

So as much as the group has been rewarding and I have met some wonderful people, I have never felt so isolated as well......it is only when i am confronted with this conundrum that I realise my deficiencies......

I will keep trying.......the connection will happen one day......and I will really enjoy it.

Thanks for this post......but I can't really answer your question......I have no idea.

PS. Sorry Nowheretorun, bit off topic.....but big hugs to you