
Aug 17, 2009, 10:34 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2009
Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
Posts: 2,779
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Originally Posted by aria83
Is making me think about my family. rant.. I am beginning to slowly not be able to stand them. I am 26 and still live with them. My family has always been dysfunctional. I'm sick of them. I need positive relationships. my dad is a bumbling idiot moron. He pays for things for me and I don't have a job and I can't deal anymore. I don't want to be dependent on him. He is stupid. I can't stand him. I don't know why my mom is married to him. He is an idiot. He is a drunkard and he is impossible to communicate with most of the time. His moods are unpredictable and he is hard to get close to. We are not close but he complains to me that I don't talk to him. he complains when I do talk to him. he criticizes me. I think he has delusions and a complex. I don't like him. He is stupid. He is never there for me. we are not on the same level and he doesn't want to change or learn anything. I just want to move out.
I like my mom. She is very passive aggressive though. It's weird. She talks bad about people behind their backs all the time and she plays the devils advocate very well. It makes me sad and annoys me.
I'm trying to be assertive and make friendships that mean something to me. Guess that's all I can do right now.
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Aria,
Some of your mother's personality querks probably come from living with your father because of his drinking, at least some of them. Do you attend any of the Twelve Step programs, by chance? There is an Adult Child of Alcoholics section here on PC and there are a few of us who are very well schooled in it. Not the Twelve Step stuff only, but the effects of living with an alcoholic. You might find some of that info helpful. Just a suggestion.
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Vickie
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