The stalker mentality, about which I did a lot of reading, is all about control, all about ME, ME, ME! It is not about love at all, and they don't care how much fear and chaos they create as long as they reach their goal. You don't sound like that at all, and you are being very considerate to avoid driving by her place in reaching your destinations. Eventually, though, I hope you reach the point where you can come and go as you please without consideration of whether she might see you driving by. You say, she has the right to do whatever she wants....and, hey, so do you!

The time since your last contact is very recent....less than a week! Seeing a bouquet of flowers which make you think of her is just a natural result of love. I am wondering since it IS so recent, if you have had the opportunity to honestly convey your feelings for her before giving up? Was her break off from you so abrupt that you do not feel it would be appropriate to email her a letter telling her your heartfelt feelings? If you did such a thing and got NO response, or a negative rejection, then that would be your answer, and maybe helpful to you in moving on and recovering.

Now, about this Internet dating thing. You say you saw her profile on Match.com. May I ask, is that how the two of you met? Nothing wrong with that, and I have met some people that way myself. But I have some firm convictions about dating etiquette thru that venue. First, are both or your profiles currently posted? Did they remain posted and active during your time together? If so, for either of you, that is a BIG RED FLAG, and causes insecurity and anxiety. Also!!, and others may disagree with me, I feel there should be a "grace" period before posting one's profile again on the singles' sites after a breakup. It shows a lack of consideration and insensitivity for the one who was rejected. It is even possible that the experience you had with this woman is a pattern for her....setting someone up and then rejecting them. There are all sorts of predators on the Internet dating sites...emotional and financial, and I speak from experience. I won't go there again because of it!

I hope you are doing better today, Artist. I hope others here will post their opinions on what I've said.
Seeker