You haven't known him long enough to move in together.....I didn't know my husband a year before we were married. I was getting my BS & he just graduated that May. We met in September & got married the next June. Unfortunately, I realized just before we got married that there were too many things about his personality that I didn't like.....My Mother said...."He'll grow up".....he never did. It took 33 years for me to finally leave, but the last 12 years, we were living in separate areas of the house.

It's important to really know the person before you decide to move in together. I am not one that believes in living together in the first place, but it's better to keep it separate until you absolutely know this is the person you will get married to.

My daughter moved out of state & had her own place, then decided to move in with her boyfriend....then they bought a house together, they he decided he didn't want in the relationship any longer.......she pretty much lost everything in that situation......unfortunately, she didn't follow her mom's guidance in being able to financially take care of yourself just in case......so she is always dependent on living with someone to make ends meet. Don't do anything until you have your independence established in the first place......worst thing is to get into a situation before that & end up stuck.

Better off being alone & letting him figure out where he is coming from. You can give him all the support & understanding from a separate location before you ever go farther...in the end, he is the one that has to figure it all out.

My sister-in-law.....lived with a guy who didn't want to ever get married...hoping that some day he would. She took care of everything just as if she were his wife without any of the benefits......they decided to break up for whatever reason.....she came out of that relationship ok because he was a stunt person for the movies & had money he gave her when they separated...they had lived together for years enough for common law, but never filed.....he was good enough to care for her well being.....many don't care & only care about themselves.

From all my experiences & observations......best to make it alone first.....only get together if you know that you both love each other.....being on the fence doesn't count....it can go either way...not a good risk to take.

JMO,
Debbie