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Aug 17, 2009, 05:59 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2009
Location: Maryland
Posts: 91
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I'm glad I did help some! Well if you have tried the letters and notes in the past and found that it was more stress to you, then bag it.
From what is sounds like it is time to walk away! I know that is not an easy thing to do trust me. As you said you have all the "what ifs" You will have them and it will be hard, but in the long run you will be better. Friendships are suppose to go two ways not one. If she is thinking that you don't want to be friends then she can also make an effort to get in contact with you. it should be "you" who always has to break the ice or see if you are still friends. I'm not trying to sound harsh or anything. don't beat yourself up with the what ifs. what if you do call her and she isn't waiting for you to call, then you will fall even further back or down. If she cares about the friendship then it is her time to make the effort. You shouldn't have to apologize for anything!!! So never think that!
I can relate to the being friends because is feels good to be with that person. I said the same thing. Yes you can have fun with other people to. I know it isn't easy to meet or make new friends. maybe you have a friend that can introduce you to new peope. You have a friend here 
quote=Dwayne61;110910 Thanks, scotlandskye. You did help giving me your opinion and letting me know that I'm not alone.
I’ve written her letters and notes in the past in an attempt to get her to contact me. From what I recall, she didn’t respond very much. Also, from what I recall, my stress level went up after I sent the letters obsessing about whether she would call.
It's getting to the point that whenever I start thinking/obsessing about her, I scream silently to myself: "I've had enough!" In one way, it seems that it would be so much better if I would just do whatever is needed to be done to put her out of my mind. But there's the "what ifs". What if she is waiting for me to call her?? But if I don't call her and we could've resumed our friendship, what's the worst that could happen? Would it be all my fault that we're no longer friends? As far as I know, I have nothing left to apologize for. There was one time when we had a misunderstanding. I didn't think we were friends any more & when I talked to her, she thought I didn't want to be friends.[/quote]
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