so long story short...my brother's fiance kicked me out of their house when I was 18 and going to school and working. (she was the one who wanted me to live with them) My brother and his fiance were upset that I was not forming a relaitonship with them...instead I was concentrating on my studies and work (they are in their 30s at the time) His fiance wanted me to go out drinking with her...and help her take care of her kid, clean the house and make my own dinner....brother kicks me out before my final exams (its a wonder I did not flunk out of school)...don't talk to him for two years.

My brother is getting married to this woman two years from then...she calls me to tell me that she wants to see me before the wedding. The reason is ebcause she doesn't want it to be awkward amoung us. I told her that I was uncomfortable with that and I jsut wanted to go with my parents to the wedding for my brother.

she was upset...I also told her that if my brother wnats to see me so bad...he can phone me himself instead of through her.

my brother tells my niece who is staying with him...that he never had a close relaitonship with me anyways...I got upset.

(meanwhile) my parents have been fighting with my brother on and off. He phones them up and yells at them...my parents yell at him for the way he is treating me....then my mom finally decides that the reason why me and my brother can't get along is because of culture wars. I am used to a structured family setting...while my brother's fiance left home at 14 and never had a real family...

I dunno why I'm upset...I'm happy that there is no more fighting...but I am unhappy because my brother treated me like crap and he hasn't said sorry....when he expected me to...I guess I am not sure if my parents really realise what he put me through

tell me what you think...have I been abused here...should I make the point clear to my parents that I do not like being walked all over...and that my brother should apologize for his behaviour?