Hello ,

Numerous times in the past year as well as years prior when I have shared that I have over twenty years of recovery from my eating disorder . I am asked in the next sentence or two.

Do you STill have the problem? or are you still purging. This is from doctors aqauintences and even therapists.

At a State run dental school I suffered humilaition that when I ended up standing up for myself in an email , resulted in my denial of further treament.

Im at my wits end . I was asked if I really wanteed to invest so much money in ,my dental work if I was just going to erode it all away.

I liken this to what If my oncologist said , Patricia , Now you and we know you have had a history of an eating disorder , and though you have been working on it for over 20 years , WE and you may want to consider if its worth investing in the surgery right now for this cancer .

its all concerning my heallth.


I've worked so very hard , But no one BELIEVES me .

This just further adds to my daily work on holding my head up in the midst of adversity.

Do people Listen?

Do people Trust ?
will anyone ever believe me ?

it angers me . it hurts .I have no way to prove it either.

I Shared this in therapy yesterday ,

one idea My therapist gave me was to work On educating the person as a response to ingnorance. Which takes time.
Im just PLUM TIRED of first risking divulging such private delicate info with others

The most recent faux puax was in my work up for cancer .
they wrote .

Patient was hopsitalized in 1986 for eating disorder...

WHAT! I was never ever hospitalized for it . I recoverd from it fully in that year.I did it all out patient over a four year period . I know the evry detail of my recovery most precious and hard won.

Why does this happen ? Why after I tell a doctor my history do they turn around and act as if Im a LIER!

this is a rant. It hurts its INSULTING . and it angers and frustates me.

Some sugestions on what to say to these doctors and other people when they do this beides to just let it roll off my back would be appreciated.

Im cannot respond imediately when people do this .Im not an on my feet thinker . I feel the hit in the gut and then it comes back to me and I beat myself up for not being able to respond when its being said.

so practice will help me
This just came to me .

I could ask.

Why after I just told you I Had an eating disorder and have had 20 some years of recovery do you turn and ask me if its still a problem?

and see what they say.

Patricia