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VickiesPath · Aug 18, 2009, 11:46 AM

Hello Miragex and welcome,

I can surely empathize with where you are at and only imagine the stress it is causing you. To be perfectly frank with you, I found myself in a similar situation many, many years ago and as they say, hindsight is 20/20. I would like to quote part of your post:

"I want her to live and be happy. I really care for her and I love her as well but at the same time I can never leave my wife and family. They mean a lot to me too and I am a very respected person in society. I am not the type that would cheat on my wife and I was not looking for an affair because my wife means so much to me. I could sense this lady was in a mess when I met her and I only thought of helping her out and to help her get out of her meaningless life. We both didnt reallze how or when we fell for each other. It just happened."

Sweetheart: Even though you say that you are not the type who would cheat on your wife, the fact is you did. You also say you could tell this lady was a mess, yet you became involved with her anyway only to help her out? It is important that you look carefully at these facts and, although this was not planned, you must accept what you did and you must accept responsibility for your actions.

You have some very difficult decisions to make and I would suggest that you get some supportive advice. Find a therapist to help you sort this out. I'm serious. You are into this in a deep way and could lose a lot in the process. You could lose your girlfriend, your wife and your child.

We care about you here, Miragex. By the way, I am 56 years old and have been married four times. I have made many, many mistakes in my life so I have much experience behind what I am saying to you.

Not meaning to offend you in any way.