Dear Dreamland,

For many years I wondered why I hated my bday soooo badly. Now I know. Evil abusers made a good day into something hateful and bad. As you can see many of us had that terrible experience of having good things turned bad/painful.

I have gotten enough help that now I can be ok on my bday. It is not a bad day anymore. I am older now (in my 50's) and most folks pay less attention to bdays as we get older. I am glad I was born and I am glad that God has helped me survive the evil ones who did their best to destroy me. Actually they are all dead now and I'm not, so I guess the last laugh is mine. Mostly I just do my best to forget them and live. I DO believe "The best revenge is to live well". The fact that I am still here and getting well shows that those petty, warped, pathetic cowards did not succeed in destroying me.

They did not succeed in destroying you either and as you live and heal you will finally believe that the triumph is yours as you move beyond them and the past....in good time!!!

I am glad you were born and that you are a member here. You matter!