sorry ((((ner))) I am too depressed myself to read through thewhole thread... as for the cleaning help? Don't feel bad, and call for help! Even 2 hours can be amazing! Most ppl do feel they need to tidy up before the housekeeper comes, believe me though, it's not necessary. They are ppl you are hiring to do a service. It's none of their business how it is or how it got that way! Do this for yourself if you can. It's worth it when they're gone and the place feels cleaner. TC