(((((((((( myoasis89 ))))))))))))

It sounds to me like you are struggling the most with not having your feelings validated. I can so understand that as I had a situation with my father, his brother and SIL and myself. My father asked his brother for help and they took him in. They did their best to keep my father from me, not allowing me to speak to him or come to see him. I was beside myself and wanted to hear it from his mouth, not my uncles' or aunts' mouth. Then, when he took off without telling anyone I scared to death for him and where he might be. At first I thought he may have been hurt and no one knew who to contact about him. So, I called the police and they went to my uncles' home looking for information. Needless to say, they were quite ticked off at me for doing that. We fought about it, wrote some nasty letters to one another and to this day (this was about 15 years ago) they have still not validated my feelings.

I don't care whether or not they agree with me, that's not what I'm looking for....I just wanted validation. Just acknowledge that my feelings were hurt....don't even have to accept responsibility for hurting me...just validate! Geeesh....LOL.

I agree with Pom.....go to the wedding to show your support for your parents and your brother. You can love your brother but it doesn't mean you have to like him, his choices or his actions. Keep the past where it is because this wedding certainly isn't the place to bring it up. As far as your SIL, I'm not sure what she's up to but I would very nicely decline discussing it with her...like you said, your brother should be talking to you, he does have a voice

Take good care hon!


sabby