but, i posted here back in january. I am on my way to divorcing the bi polar, ocd, pathological, narcissistic husband i lived with for 10 years. Now that i am away from him i cannot believe how much life he sucked out of me, i am thriving, happy, relaxed and much much much more fulfilled.i no longer feel inadequate every day, i no longer feel that it is impossible to communicate with him, he always made it sound like i had the problem communicating and he never understood what i said and nothing i said to him made sense, that in itself was so frustrating and maddening. I moved out of the ripped up house, the house that had been standing ripped up inside for 7 years he never worked on nor finished. The dogs are more relaxed and so am i. I am a helper and do not give up. That is why i stayed so long, being a police officer i blamed his issues on that until we started seeing a well known psychiatrist in town. She did a workup on us both and the dark stuff behind the soon to be ex was amazing and incredibly volitile. My mother could not believe i would be in an abusive relationship. of all her kids i was the most independant and willful and stubborn. well, i told her, you dont know how you would react when you see someone you love self destructing time and time again, you feel a need to help them, watch over them etc... but, it is not appreciated and they do it time and time again.
I learned a valuable lesson. I wish anyone who is in a volitile relationship to get the heck out. you wont realize it until a few months later how much healthier you are for getting out of it.
Thanx to all for the support you gave me a while back. By the way, he knows he is F`ed up in the head (his words) but he refuses to get help, refuses meds and refuses to see that he is imperfect.
HAppily on my own!