Penna, ty for those links. I did read them.

My idea of having my T as my friend is somewhat different......I have no expectations of socializing with him outside of his office, nor of being a pest by calling 24/7.

All I want him to do is talk to me after I SI..........that's it. Not to condone my actions or even sympathize. Simply to work out with me WHY I did it. I am not able to control the impulses before time to take the few minutes to call him.......the feelings drown out all rational thought and I cut.

I understand about having the dual role thing, and I have no wish for that. I just want him, within time guidelines and his home life, to be willing to speak to me after I harm myself. Nothing more.

I appreciate the links though. They were informative. Thanks.

Mary Alice