Oh dear. I agree that you need to get yourself into therapy to help you clear your head, get some psychoeducation, and help you make important decisions.

In an ideal world your #1 priority right now would be your new baby, and helping out that new mom. Who do you think is your #1 priority? Where is your attention focused? Therapy can help you break this seemingly unhealthy connection, and determine why it occurred in the first place.

And that poor girl is very ill, and needs *professional* help - not your help.

S