therefore all of my advice comes from my heart, my soul and my head.....Shirley!, if you leave because you don't have a T, what will I do? Who will make me laugh so much that I can't breathe? Who will I talk to when I can't talk to anyone else?

You've come so far, in such a short time and you offer so much hope to other women who are struggling with the man/men in their lives....it would be a tremendous loss to the forums, if you left.....you've shown by example that women can stand up to bullies and win back their self-respect..you rock, woman!!