Trust me when i say she is relying on you and she does love you, think about it this way she wont have contact with you and she wont look into your eyes, shes just lost one man she loves and im guessing shes scared to lose another, so she thinks by pushin you away she can win this fear. i know thats how i feel, my dad just died too. try and get her to the docs. she does need help. but it will work out. good luck.