ty (((Elysium)))))

Even though we are cautious and aware, we still allow ourselves to drop our wall a bit and let others in.

im not too sure how others may see it, but for me, i came to PC as a way to make positive connections, to seek help with questions, to find others also learning to find their way along the path of healing.. i had searched for it in my real life society and seen faint traces of the kind listening i needed in places but always felt i had overstayed my welcome, asked too many questions, didnt get the meanings soon enough... with PC i was able to quickly identify with others sorrow, empathize, be empathized with... it was a place that allowed me to have the time i needed to come to the realizations i needed to come to... one thing i sense in this community was that even though i might at times have misunderstandings, confusion, i have never felt unwelcome as i did at times in my real society and the good people in this internet community gave me a place where, if i tried and didnt harm others, i was given patience and understanding..... even more to my amazement is that all this help was offered freely of others own good will....

i wish i had been able to locate so many good, non judgmental people in my real life community but, its kinda funny, for a website, it still is able to generate in me a feeling that i can carry into my real life community and real life activities... so in many ways, communities are communities, no matter where we find them and they have many things in common, though not all things..

i know that many of you are members of my society, here and in real life... i know i may one day speak with you, someplace, somewhere... some part of you is with me always and as i interact with those in my real life surroundings, i know there are some who would be able to identify with you, that a little part of you exists in all of us in some way and to think that it is the empathic and compassionate part of each of you that is also a part of the people around me has helped me with relating and connecting in my real life world...

((muffy)))))

As IRL and the cyber world things can get confusing. IRL you can just explain it. In cyber world it sometimes appears different than it is.
I have gotten at pc a huge family....one I had lost....for that i am ever grateful for..

misunderstandings are opportunities for understandings, in real life, and in cyber communities... within each of us is the thing called true intent...

it is in communication, listening, asking questions, managing our fears, that we are able to find each others true intent... when we have been hurt in our past we developed systems of defense to prevent ourselves from feeling those same pains again in the future... this sometimes creates barriers and prevents us from achieving the connections that loneliness has driven us to find... it is with courage that we take risks again that we might enjoy life rather than live in the darkness of fear but risk we must if we are to break free of our debilitating and paralyzing thoughts.. we walk into our communities, cyber and real, and we cant help notice that some there havent lost the ability to enjoy living and we want to be a part of that again ourselves....depression deepens the longer it takes for us to find our way back into the place we once were, or in some cases, have never been....

risk is the way to escape the darkness for if we were to remain in the fearful place, we know we will never reach anything that even remotely feels good to us...

as we risk, we fear and as we fear, we can take steps to protect ourselves... awareness that those things which first drove us to fear still exist and are still around us is the first step we can take in preventing a replay of the past.. in real life communities we rely on a safety network to protect our peace and sadly, it cannot always be perfect... in our cyberworld we need the same protections... communication is how members of any community share with each other what dangers are present and in that way, protect each other...

still, it is not all bad.... friends can be found, hope can be shared

sorry for being too long