What a ****. Why don't you have him resend the letter and explain what he means by "fair" including the progress you've made and that you're stable, etc. Maybe if he knew his letter was the difference between you getting a job and moving closer to your family or not getting the job and having to stay where you are, he'd actually give a crap. Drs are busy and often blind to their patients' (or former patients') needs because they have too many things to do. So, I don't mean to malign him, but I feel for your situation.

If he's not willing to help you or elaborate his message...I'm not sure what to tell you. Maybe visit your grandfather and your family every few months to check up on him. Sorry I don't know what else to add. I like to vent on the site too and sometimes am only looking for support. If my advice sucks or sound lame, feel free to ignore it. Just hate to hear about you or anyone suffering discrimination due to a mental disorder that is not their fault and completely manageable with meds.